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The Truth About Trauma and True Inner Strength: Trauma DID NOT Make You Stronger

The Myth of Trauma as a Strength Builder

We've all heard stories that almost glorify trauma, making it seem like it's some kind of necessary evil that builds us up. But let's cut through that noise: trauma is not a building block for strength. It's an unwanted challenge that tests the resilience we already have.

Saying that suffering is needed to become strong totally misses the mark. It overlooks the bravery we're born with, the inner toughness that's been there all along, even before life decided to test us.

Recognizing Our Inherent Strength

Here's the thing – as a woman, you weren't made strong by the traumas you went through. You were always strong, and you tapped into that strength to get past those traumas. This is a key difference.

We're shifting the spotlight from the external things that hurt us, to the internal firepower that helped us get through. Your strength isn't a byproduct of hard times; it's a sign of who you are, a reflection of the resilience in your soul.

The Journey of Overcoming

The real deal about overcoming isn't the pain that was thrown our way, but how we chose to deal with it. It's about rediscovering ourselves amid all the chaos. It's about those nights spent putting back together our broken pieces – not because we wanted to be shattered, but because we were hell-bent on coming out whole.

This journey is more than just bouncing back; it's about realizing the well of strength we've always had.

Everyday Strategies to Find Inner Strength When Rebuilding

It's crucial to remember: your trauma didn't forge your resilience; it was your inner power, wisdom, and intuition that did the heavy lifting. YOU rebuilt yourself. Now, let's talk about how you can tap into these incredible internal resources to continue your journey of healing and empowerment.

Embrace Your Inner Power: Find Your Strength Zone

Identify Your Strengths: Start by taking stock of your strengths. These aren't just skills or talents, but also character traits. Are you compassionate, a good listener, fiercely determined? Recognize these as your power sources.

Celebrate Wins: Acknowledge and celebrate these moments. They're proof of your strength. Write them down or share them with someone. Seeing your own resilience in action reinforces your belief in yourself.

Empowering through Boundary Setting Exercises:

  • Activity: Set a boundary in a personal or professional relationship.

  • Example: Telling a friend or family member about a topic you are not comfortable discussing.

  • Action: Communicate this boundary clearly and respectfully. Afterward, journal about the experience, focusing on your feelings during and after setting this boundary.

Mindfulness and Inner Strength:

  • Activity: Practice mindfulness with a focus on recognizing your inner strength.

  • Example: Meditating while focusing on a recent achievement or a personal quality you're proud of.

  • Action: Use this time to deeply connect with your sense of power, acknowledging and accepting it.

Tap into Your Inner Wisdom: Learning from Your Past

Reflect on Your Journey: Take time to reflect on your past, especially the tough times. What lessons did they teach you? Maybe you learned resilience, patience, or the importance of self-care.

Journaling for Insight: Try journaling as a tool for reflection. Writing about your experiences and the lessons you've learned can provide clarity and insight, helping you to understand your journey better.

Cultivating Inner Wisdom Through Decision Analysis:

  • Activity: Analyze a recent decision you made.

  • Example: Choosing to decline an invitation that didn’t align with your values.

  • Action: Write down the decision, why you made it, and how it aligns with your core values or past experiences. Reflect on how this decision-making process felt and what it reveals about your wisdom.

Book of Lessons:

  • Activity: Create a personal 'book of lessons' where you document important life lessons.

  • Example: Noting the lesson learned from a job loss or a failed relationship.

  • Action: Regularly update this book and revisit it when faced with challenges to draw on your accumulated wisdom.

Hone Your Intuition: Trusting Your Gut

Test and Learn: Start trusting your intuition in small ways. Make a decision based on your gut feeling and observe the outcome. This practice can help strengthen your intuition over time.

Embrace Uncertainty: Understand that tapping into your intuition is not about always being right, but about trusting yourself to navigate even when the path isn’t clear. Embrace the uncertainty and let your intuition guide you.

Developing Intuition by Predicting Outcomes:

  • Activity: Before an event or interaction, predict how it will unfold based on your intuition.

  • Example: Anticipating the mood or topics of a meeting.

  • Action: Record your predictions and then compare them with the actual outcome. Reflect on the accuracy of your intuition and how it guides your perception and understanding of events.

Body Scan for Intuitive Signals:

  • Activity: Practice a daily body scan to identify and understand intuitive signals from your body.

  • Example: Noticing a feeling of tightness in your stomach before a meeting.

  • Action: When you feel a physical reaction, pause to consider what your intuition might be telling you about the situation.


Remember, rebuilding yourself after trauma is not a linear journey. It's about taking steps, big and small, towards embracing and utilizing your inner strengths. Your power, wisdom, and intuition are like muscles – the more you use them, the stronger they become. Trust in these inner resources; they've been with you all along, guiding you towards healing and wholeness.

Empowering Others Through Our Stories

When we share our stories, it's not about giving trauma a stage. It's about lighting up the path of resilience. It's showing others that even though we couldn't control the hard times that hit us, we took the reins on our healing. We didn't just survive our pain; we turned it into our joy. Sharing these stories is like giving a map to those still in the middle of their storms, reminding them that their strength isn't just a reaction to struggle – it's part of who they are.

Ready to Step Into Your Power?

ReWild Your Emotions & Find Your True Self Again

I'm inviting you to join me in a journey that's close to my heart: the 'ReWild Your Emotions' Beta Program. This isn't just another coaching program that will preach about self-care and boundaries.

It's a heart-led journey back to your true self, inspired by the gritty realities of life and the raw courage we find within.

Why This Program?

You know that feeling of being stuck in a loop of overthinking and people-pleasing? Of feeling like a hot mess on the inside? This program is about breaking free from those cycles. It's not about glorifying trauma but finding your inner strength that's been there all along.

What's in It for You?

'ReWild Your Emotions' is all about getting real. It's about:

Discovering Your True Strength: Not the strength forged by trauma, but the strength that's always been part of you.

Loving All of You: Learning to embrace every part of yourself – the good, the bad, and everything in between.

Dealing with Life Head-On: You'll get practical tools and real support to help you face life’s challenges without losing yourself.

Join an Inner Circle of Women Like You

This is your chance to be part of a group that's all about real talk and real change. As a beta participant, you're not just another member; you're a crucial part of shaping this journey.

An Exclusive Offer

Being a beta participant means you get in at a special rate. This is your opportunity to be part of something special from the very beginning, with guidance and support tailored to your journey.

Ready for Real Change?

If you're tired of feeling stuck and unfulfilled, this is your chance to make a change. This beta program is where we tackle what's really going on beneath the surface.

Spots are limited because I want to keep this journey intimate and impactful.

If you're feeling the pull towards this journey, now's the time to step up.

Hop on the Waitlist and Be Part of Your Own Story

Your journey to rediscovering yourself starts here. Let's take this step together, and here's to embracing our raw, real selves and living life on our own terms.

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We live in a world that often mistakes suffering for strength. Let's flip that script.

Let's celebrate our strength not as a reminder of our past traumas but as proof of our inherent power.

We're not strong because we had to go through tough times; we're strong because we had the guts to rise above them.

Our traumas aren't what define us; they're just challenges we faced head-on. Inside every woman is a power that life's trials can't dim, a kind of strength that's purely hers.